It is the one year anniversary of your retirement
twelve months since you took a leap of faith
and each time during these 12 months that you responded to
the frequently asked questions –
you grew taller
and most importantly,
you relished in pride
at letting go
Q1 – So, do you miss work?
asked the voice with a “told you so” tone!
Ans – No, because work was what I did for 30 years
but not what I leaned on for my self-worth
Q2 – So, what do you do then with your days? a cynic tone spilling over
a cynic tone spilling over
Ans – I do a lot; it includes
the dishes, the pot of chicken curry
travel or just walk and soak in the sights&sounds
photography, people, culture awareness
I do ask a lot of questions
research and develop my hobbies
I do engage in politics – both as an academic understanding
and as a cause for reflection
I do renovation projects in my home
and, I feel neither guilty nor embarrassed
Q3 – Don’t you miss the camaraderie and friendship?
meaning, your own connections..
Ans – I miss my friends, but am reminded every day
friends who matter still care for me and are around
I also have an advantage that shields me from this
that shields me from this vacuum of missed connections
I go to bed every night with my best friend
I invest more in my children and family
not necessarily in terms of time
but surely in terms of thought, intentional thought
Q4 – Are you ok second fiddling?
that man like voice booming into the question
Ans – Those who know me, also know
I don’t fiddle around much
I own it –
my decision, my relationships
Try it, and when you start owning your position
the number game does not bother anymore
Q5 – What plan do you have now that you are a year into retirement?
in other words, don’t you feel lost
Ans – Submerging into perspectives that
fell out of my vision view thus far
Engaging with my hobbies
Falling in tune with the circadian rhythm
that freedom brings to you
Q6 – What is the one myth you were able to bust about retired life?
Now.. I got ya!
Ans – The warnings about the time together
being in each other’s space
the effort needed to ensure your relationship
adapts and is able to flourish
On this very special One Year Anniversary
We celebrate you and all the
Real Men like you!